My Love Hate Relationship With Social Media

I’ve always been a big fan of social media, even in junior high at 13 I was on Xanga before I pledged my allegiance to Myspace freshman year. It’s fun! It gives you the ability to connect with people all over the world and people you’ve know forever. However, I feel like we’ve entered this period of social over sharing where we feel obligated and expected to connect with every single person that we’ve ever come in contact with.

The person you met once at a party adds you on Facebook, a friend of a friend of a friend adds you on Linkedin, your mom is following you on twitter, and your baby sister is on instagram. And people get offended if you don’t follow back or accept their request. So here you are feeling obligated to add someone you barely know or someone who you’d rather not share information with because you know them in real life.

Now you have to limit what you post, be aware of you say and comment on, and where you take pictures. You just wanted to post a photo of you and your friends now you have to put on a jacket, move the wine glasses out of the way, and make sure nothing incriminating is in the background so your Granny, Boss, and Sunday school teacher won’t think you’re a skank and a drunk. (Even though you’re legal and really like that strapless dress.)

Sometimes I like to watch, say, and do things that have nothing to do with my career goals or my university– it’s just for fun! There are things I would never walk into a classroom or interview room and say, but with social media I feel like I’m yelling them in people’s ears. Sometimes I like to do things without commentary, criticism, and feedback. I just wanted to express myself honestly. When I was in elementary we used to have “Free writes” for bell ringers, draw or write anything you want for 15 minutes. It’s not for a grade, you don’t have swap with your neighbor, and I won’t read it. My teacher would say

“I just want to get your creative juices flowing and let you get anything off your chest.”

If I tweet “I hate burger king” I don’t want to explain why I hate it. I don’t want a 15 tweet dialogue comparing various burger joints from my followers, or you saying you love burger king and I’m crazy! No one was talking about what you like, I was saying what I like.  I’m not writing a compare and contrast essay. Maybe someone doesn’t want to be asked about why their relationship ended when they come into the office on Monday. It’s personal. And don’t get me started about how people psycho-analyze tweets, sub-tweets, and photos and come up with these crazy ideas. (Somebody somewhere is probably writing a dissertation about Rihanna’s instagram and twitter)
Sometimes school friends are only people you wish to converse with at school, and work friends are only people you’d wish to talk to at work; but how do you let them know that?

What do you think? Am I just easily annoyed? Do you see people over sharing and overstepping their boundaries on social media? Do you feel like you’re always being watched??

CNN’s Black In America

CNN’s special “Black In America” aired tonight! I really enjoyed , but once I got on Tumblr I saw some of the negative feedback people were saying about the piece.

The piece in my opinion really was about how these individuals identified themselves and the emotional struggle that entailed. I would encourage people to look at it from a different perspective. Beyond being human we all having different things that we identify with; Female,heterosexual,Christian,Muslim,American,Nigerian,Texan, etc. Each one of those demographics is what makes this country and world what it is today. Each one of those groups has voice, issues, and opinions. I feel all aspects of the melting pot that we call America deserve to be examined. While Blacks are a smaller portion of America population , these issues are relevant. “Shadiesm”and Colorism result in things like bullying and low self esteem and a multitude of emotional hurt. Would you complain about a special about another demographic?

And for the comments of a post racial society, we don’t live in one. If you don’t believe me look at some of the tweets and Facebook posts after the election. Unfortunately, a lot of people go out of their way to make those who are non-white feel inferior today in 2012. It’s terrible, and I’d hope none of your reading this fall into that category.

I hope CNN (and other networks) continue to do specials like this, not just about black people; but other issues that affect us as in Americans whatever characteristics and demographics that includes. Because honestly a lot of us don’t understand issues that our fellow Americans face, we just pay attention to what affects us right here at this instant.

Twitter: @BlackInAmerica , @Soledad_OBrien @CNN, #BlackInAmerica
Tomorrow at 12ET Essence Magazine is hosting a Google+ hangout with Soledad O’brien.

 

Dallas in 140 Characters

My friends always tell me I know everything that is going on. So I thought I’d share with the world how I get all the 411 where ever I am. Coming back from college to your hometown you always feel … Continue reading

Viacom vs. DirectTV

Direct TV has over 20 Million cable subscribes and it looks like almost all of them took to twitter today to voice their anger over Direct TV dropping 26 of their channels. (Nickelodeon, Comedy Central, MTV, BET, VH1, CMT, Logo, Spike, TV Land, MTV2, VH1 Classic, Palladia, Nick Jr., NickToons, TeenNick, Nickelodeon West, Tr3s, Centric, MTV India, Nickelodeon HD, Comedy Central HD, MTV HD, BET HD, VH1 HD, CMT HD and Spike HD)  Whether you want to watch Hot in Cleveland, Dora the Explorer, or 16 & Pregnant these channels are some of the most popular on TV and bring in HUGE ratings.

Both of the companies have been pointing the finger at one another. In a nutshell it seems that Viacom wants Direct TV to pay them more money, and Direct TV is refusing to pay up. What interested me the most about this battle was the use of social media to protest and blame each other. This could prove dangerous for both companies depending on who the consumers believe is at fault. Not too long ago the Susan G Komen Foundation faced huge backlash through social media about their decision to pull funding from Planned Parenthood.

Who’s side are you on? Check out Viacom and DirecTv’s websites for their official statements, and scroll down below to see the tweet and videos from both sides.

 

I think my favorite was ” you got Direct TV ?? I feel bad for you son… I got 99 channels and you only have 1″

and the Viacom Pop up response to the video of the DirectTV CEO. Quite creative